Its fixed in itunes to use icloud to sync for some reason. which worked but then stopped working.
Outlook is working with the ical but not syncing with the iphone or updating appointments.

How can I get itunes to sync with ical?

I gather icloud is not even compatible with outlook atm. How can I change this setting?

Any help much appreciated as driving me mad and costing me time!

Thanks
I can't seem to get my songs that I'm listening to from iTunes and Windows Media Player to my MSN Messenger Status. Why is that?
Please read OS X 10.8 removes iTunes sync support with Outlook for Mac by MVP William Smith for details.

Outlook for Mac no longer syncs with Mountain Lion’s Calendar (formerly iCal) and Contacts (formerly Address Book) via iTunes. Outlook for Mac users now have just one option for syncing mail, calendars and contacts with any Apple product: Microsoft Exchange, which is a solution geared more toward enterprise customers. Multiple hosting services offer Exchange for home and small business consumers including Microsoft’s Office 365.