Using google aps; gmail; Windows 7; Windows Live Mail 2012 & iPhone 4; use gmail to share across Server & 2 computers; using Windows Live to send, receive & file emails (prefer it to gmail).

Incoming & outgoing mail goes through gmail to Windows Live. Windows Live acts as a 'client' for gmail (emails are NOT forwarded from gmail).

Issues:

1) deleting emails in Windows Live does not delete them in gmail; can this be fixed?

2) how do I set up my iPhone to sync with Live Mail?

3) If #2 can be accomplished, can gmail be set up to automatically delete emails after they appear in Windows Live?